Sad, but I think she just has a problem communicating! What she was really saying was...how nice! I want the baby's room to match, but pick what ever colors and pattern you like and that will be a quilt baby uses when not in her matchy room! I need to learn to turn peoples words around- I get hurt too often also! Go for a nice quilt full of love for the baby- not for the mom! Can't wait to see a photo of the quilt!!!!