I know the hurt. When my grandson was born 16 years ago I spent the months prior to his birth making all types of handmade things, sweaters, booties, blankets and even crocheted a christening gown for him. It took by DIL almost 2 hours to open all the things I had made. Unfortunately I had her open them the night before her baby shower at our home. When we went to the shower the next day - she didn't even mention the things I had made for him. She had told me the night before that she needed a gate for their stairs so I made a specila trip in rain 40 miles one way to get her a gate. At the shower when she opened that she this is "from her". Needless to say I don't make any homemade gifts for their family as they are not appreciated and they would give them away in a heartbeat without any consideration of passing them down in years to come.