I remember having a baby when I was 40. My favorite gift to get would be a day together. Lunch, pedicures, shopping for fabric &/or clothing. My husbands favorite gift from his children was a piggy bank and 40 quarters to put in it. You could also pay for a sewing class or other craft making activity. A gift certificate for a new set of family photos taken at different locations. Or - have a Mary Kay party and give her $100 to spend on new stuff.