My experience with family that express those feelings is to just love them where they are. There are enough people out there who really really appreciate a handmade gift - why knock yourself out making something that you know really won't be loved. You will end up looking to see if it's being used every time you visit, etc., and you'll end up being disappointed. Why set yourself up for that? I liked the advice of the person that said to wait until the child is older, and then make him/her a really cuddly, colourful lovable quilt that the child is bound to latch onto.