Listen, we traveled in a VW to camp all over Germany, Venice, Italy & Holland in 70's, when Ex was in Army. Every time he did the camp packing, but I packed the clothes like his Dad had showed me. His Dad was a Merchant Seaman & could get more clothes in one suit case than you could pick up. I did this for trips across the USA when we'd travel from the duty station back to see our folks here in Alabama. I couldn't go to bed until the house was spotless (after a long day at work at the office), dinner was fixed & they all head off to bed. When they would come to wake me up, they're all chipper & I'm lagging behind for lack of sleep from packing for all of them & cleaning. They'd all say leave it, but I coudn't stand the thought of leaving a dirty house, to have to come back to.
Tell your DH that remember you're the one who will pick his Nursing Home for him. That would be payback. Let's hope that doesn't happen. That's what my kids tell me.