And update.
I have sent a note to Ebay explaining...I didn't attach the correspondence but will once I hear from them.
I did tell the seller I was going to leave negative feedback and she wrote back that I didn't have to be nasty about it.
She has refunded my money (it's in the bank) but that's not the point. I offered to resend her the money via paypal and she told me she didn't know how to do that, she could only relist it on ebay.
Really frustrating! I"m hoping for a good outcome. Keeping my fingers crossed