Nope, My DH doesn't have a problem with me going out if I really want to. I have to keep in mind that the same problems I am having with my kids my husband does too. I would say more because the kids look at my husband as a big live toy. My 3 year old which he is 4 now wants only daddy when my DH is home. When there is a quilt class or club I really like he has no problem with me going. The problem lately has been that there is no classes or clubs that are doing patterns that interests me and my husband's traveling for his work has increased not to mention the boys' sports schedules. There isn't much time left for some me time for either of us. I understand what Judie is saying and I don't think she is saying to forget myself and just take care of the kids first. It is a balancing act. With the onslaught of the boys' sports I try to not plan too much further than when the season ends. After that the other side will look better.