WOW.. you post was touching,, truly,, And I feel with you. A post meant to vent can be turned into something not as planned,, (been there, just recently).
I am sorry you gave and then she disappeared, but in my chosen part of life, we believe that is you give with your right hand, and not even your left hand knows about it the reward is even higher in the person you believe in(god,,, or who ever). So,, just take it, file it away,,and know you did good. No one can be in control of someone else. I am proud of what you did,,(not that it matters,,but I am,,lol)
mrsdralshhadeh