First, I'm sooo sorry for your loss. :cry: I don't have a suggestion for a pattern either, but when my son was a baby I found this stuff called Bye Bye Baby Stains and it actually really worked. They have/had it in reg. and whites only, at one time I could get it at JoAnns - haven't checked for it lately. I used it on my sister's kids old bibs and it cleaned them right up.