I joined the guild of over 100 this past fall. I lucked out sitting at a table with a welcoming group of ladies. I even thanked them for that at the holiday luncheon. The were touched.
If the dues are something you can easily afford, I'd suggest joining, attend the meetings and 'check out THE QUILTERS'. Some people are chatty, some are quiet and shy, some are kind and friendly, and yes, some are just rude. *Watch and learn* who's who. (You can do this with any organization.)
If someone is a commitee chairperson, step up and introduce yourself after the meeting and volunteer to help a little. They'll be so appreciative. You will get to know others when you help.
If your friend has been a member for a while, maybe she can make a suggestion to the Board to remind members how they felt when joining a new group and to be welcoming to new members. Our Board members remind us!
After all how is the organization going to grow and do more for the community if you don't get more members?