I don't think it's so much a men vs. women thing, as it is a just not thinking thing. Insensitivity really knows no gender. I gave my mother a quilt for her birthday last year and her comment was something like "Oh. That's pretty." And that was pretty much it. I gave her and my father a quilt for Christmas and when we went there on Christmas day she didn't say a word about it. In subsequent visits, I haven't seen either quilt, so they're probably in a closet somewhere. I just make the mental note that I won't be making them any more quilts and remind myself that this is pretty much what I should have expected.