It doesn't surprise me one bit. I've been there and I really, really feel for you. Everyone is right though. It is his loss. It is a shame he will never know it. My parents were like that though my father did change shortly before he died. It took over 80 years to get any decency from my parents and then it was just from one of them. Chin up, and know that it doesn't reflect on your quilting. One of the pitfalls of gift giving is that you never know how your gift will be received.