I have no idea what to say to her and I dont want to just break down sobbing when I do see her but that's what Ive done three times today. We have been quilting friends for about a year. While I have only met her children that are still at home probably a dozen times, I have heard tons of stories about all of her children but especially her middle daughter and her youngest daughter who were the most like her.
Right now she is about 4 hours away dealing with the daughter/fiance in the hospital and their surgeries, etc. Her former in-laws, some close friends and the older children are handling things at this end.