My DD is a great woman. never chose the questionable friends, drank, smoked, or did drugs in college or HS. Now she is in a job that she is dealing with all the above things on a daily basis with teens. It is a thankless job and stressful. She found that 95% of her clients never really had loving or caring parents who imposed boundries.
they rarely said i love you and hugged their kids. Even at 25 we still say and do those things every day with her.