Pam, I know what you mean. I have felt used alot of times by my so-called friend. My conclusion is a friend wouldn't do those things. I'm so sorry but it looks like she is taking advantage of you big time. Guess I would have a serious talk with her. Don't let her use you. It will just keep getting worse. As for her bouncing a check to you & then go on vacation... that in my eyes would be it. That is totally dis-honest & deceiving. Who needs a friend like that?