Fusible web is one of those blessings with a curse as I see it....but it can be very helpful. Depending on the weight of fusible used will determine how quickly it "softens". I have a table runner I use that still is a little stiff where I used the fusible,even after many washings. If there is any other way to soften it....I haven't found it yet. I have learned that if I use it again...( the fusible)it will only be enough to outline the piece I want appliqued. Soft comfy cold water washing will help. Good luck.