When the kids were small I had the luxury of not having a job outside the home. However, they all learned to pick up their rooms, make their beds, help with cooking and cleaning, do yard work- etc. Now they are all self sufficient. DS#2 is not married and knows how to keep his home clean, cook a meal and do his laundry. In fact I think his house is cleaner than mine, of course he doesn't have to deal with fabric threads etc. grin. Each had one night a week when they cooked dinner-(this was from about age 14-moving out-they just assisted before that) We didn't care what they made but it was their duty to cook, serve and clean up. Sometimes it would have been easier to do it myself instead of listening to them grump about how mean I was, but all in all they are raising their kids the same way. Kind of feel I did something right when they are having their kids be responsible for ordinary chores.
Just a funny-when oldest grandson went into the Air Force, his drill instructor called him into the office after the first few weeks. He was scared as he couldn't figure out what he had done wrong. Anyway, the DI asked him why his area was always up to par, when most of the others would slack off and leave things undone. He just looked at him and said, But Sir isn't that the way it is supposed to be? The DI asked how he knew to do it that way, and Dan said, But Sir that was the way my Mom taught me! The DI started to laugh and told him, "I would love to meet your Mother!" Then he got promoted.
To this day he tells DD she is what got him his first promotion.