You are very kind to the dealer.
I also drive 109 miles to my dealer(HQ Fusion), but it is well worth the drive. I love them and they are so helpful.
I would have thrown a fit at your dealer's store and everyone would have known I was upset. We don't spend this much money to have an unscrupulous dealer tell us to come back next week. I am usually the most patient person, but this would have been the last straw for me.