I understand the hurt that many of you feel, i've also been there. But the original poster has the right idea on how to "feel them out". Smart thinking.
I plan to make less than 10 quilts in my lifetime, all for my grandchildren and children. I hope that because they know it is from me, they will treasure the quilt they get.
HOWEVER, once a gift is given, it is not fair to question how a person uses it. You gotta let it go.
I used to handpaint pottery and one day I expect to see one of my projects at a garage sale because I know what you all are learning...not everyone appreciates handmade items.
Maybe they have never had the pleasure of creating something of their own (poor people), or they are just too immature to understand the worth (i was young once). Let's forgive them and move on with more wisdom than we had before. Thanks so much for this post. It makes me feel better that i was not alone.