Well, my 17-year old GD seems to think I'm her enemy -- but I'm not. She was allowed to go and do as she pleased and was never taught the word "no." I don't say it often, but there are times when it is appropriate. I'm glad your GD likes to sew. I have one who lives about 200 miles from me who likes sewing and I'm teaching her to quilt. The one living with me only wants to be with her friends and boyfriend. We've had to establish rules for school days and weekends. I work, so I don't like teenagers being in my house when I'm not there. It was never allowed when my children were growing up and it's not allowed now. But, that's only one problem. She feels deserted by her parents and I can understand that, but again, I'm not the enemy here.