I haven't read this whole thread, but I think I get the idea of why it started. We do work hard and put alot of love into our gifts. I like others have scaled back my list of recipients at Christmas. I have a few special friends and family that I will still give to. This year I am going to fill bow tucks totes with cookies, etc. Knowing that not all of my friends and family may like that type of bag, I am enclosing a note with each bag. My note will read something like this.....If this bag is not your cup of tea, please find a special woman in your life and share it with her. I know they all have a special aunt, neighbor, grandmother, or friend that they could share it with. I am not sure how it will go, but I will let you know. Good Luck with all your gifts....Laura