well my sweetie was divorced for 14 yrs when we married so he's very used to intertaining himself! he's seldom underfoot and if he is it's not for long, in the afternoon when we have coffee I go out and visit with him at the picnic table, if it's Sunday and he's watching something he "invites" me to watch with him for a few minutes over coffee. and as far as what I spend he says" you know if we can afford it or not, I trust you" sure wish we'd have hooked up before I spent 22 yrs in hell! well better late than never! :thumbup: