Originally Posted by Mimito2
Hubby and I have been married 33yrs. He is an alcoholic and has never supported anything I do. Never has a kind word about anything and is always negative. He wants to know every penny I spend, every place I go and every person I talk to. NOT HAPPENING. I don't smoke, drink, use drugs or cheat.. I went to co-dependence classes and learned that I didn't have to react to his actions. I taught my sons to play ball, change oil in a car etc. and I do all the handiwork around the house including remodeling the house my sons rent from me. His free time is spent by himself drinking or in front of the TV passed out. He is a diabetic with stage 4 cirrhosis and is completely happy being miserable. PLEASE don't feel sorry for me. I pretty much do as I please and have been known to tell him to put on His Big Girl panties and deal with it. Life sews on. :)
I do know how you feel, my mum and stepfather went through a stage that when they were drunk and fighting they would hit each other over the head with2 large full bottles of beer. In those days beer came home 2 in a bag. My husband drinks beer but nothing like that. This morning I asked if he could perhaps find me some ply a certain size out of the shed (When he was ready) He went out and sorted out a big piece and told me to measure what I need, he cut it right away. Now I am trying to get the bend out of it before I make a pressing board for my sewing room. He does things like that, it is annoying when I am trying to fix up the sewing room, I did appreciate him doing it. With my osteo-arthritis in my back, it has been very sore again lately. Moving all the book, cupboards etc.