Never died, tinted, or highlighted mine so can't grasp some of this.
My two DS have. My oldest DS still highlights and it looks terrible. We tried to tell her but to no avail. After her breast cancer and the chemo, her hair came in almost black and curly. Neither looked good on her so she started dyeing it.
Other DS quit and he natural brown with grey is very becoming.
Guess it is all in how we look at ourselves.