I sneak stuff in all the time. Certainly not because I need to hide my purchases, because I far outearn my husband, and our bills are paid, and savings /retirement contributions made, and no cc debt. It's more than my husband is frugal, and doesn't understand I need more clothes, purses, fabric or whatever, and I don't even want to discuss it. He will analyze whether he needs to spend $25 on something, and I bought a long-arm because I wanted it and could afford it (of coure I did discuss it with him before buying).It doesn't help that his only hobby is video games, and he could spend $60 on a game which he will play for a year.