46+ years ago I married a man who apparently likes clutter or else it is invisible to him and I was a neat freak. Since we were both convinced of our "rights", we fought many rounds about that over the years, but he got neater and I became more tolerant. Now we are old-ish and he has many serious medical problems, so the clutter is confined to certain areas and mainly medical related. I do housework on a priority basis ... dishes, bathrooms, laundry regularly; other stuff gets done when it gets done. I must conserve my energy for making quilts!