It sounds like you're a typical mother. We spend all our time trying to please kids, husband, parents, etc. Why not look at yourself and see what pleases YOU. I've only been quilting a few months (hand not machine) and I find it very relaxing. DH loves to play golf and he finds that relaxing and enjoyable. It also can be expensive--green fees, cart fees, the latest club that will make his balls go straighter and longer. I wouldn't dream of asking him to give that up and he fully supports my relaxation of quilting. Yes, it can be expensive but there are always sales to take advantage of. Just keep on quilting and enjoy what you're doing.