It's OK to do something you love to do. It's OK to spend money. (money is for spending) You're daughter is too young to understand everything. Life is too short to be unhappy. Quilt & be happy. You'll figure out what to do with your quilts when the time comes, or let your daughter deal with them when you're gone. Join a quilting club, or send photos of your quilts here for others to admire. We're all in this together.