I haven't read the whole thread yet, so I hope I'm not repeating anything. This is what I do: I cut the binding strip a little wider (about 1/4 to 1/2 inch wider depending on the thickness of the batting). Fold in half as usual. Sew to the right side of the quilt. Roll over to the back. Here, you will see that the binding on the back is a little wider than on the front. On the front, machine stitch as close to the binding as you can get. The "fluff" of the binding and the quilt will usually hide the stitching. In so doing, the back binding will be caught in the stitching and looks neat.
Edit: Oh, I see that Hevemi does the same thing. And yes, I agree about the QP.