After re-reading the first posting -
I have a couple of questions?
If your friend bought the kit - it may have been the last one - whatever -
Did she ASK or DEMAND that you make it up for her?
Some people actually think that one is "looking for" projects to do --
She may have just been "dumb/ignorant/unaware" - and didn't fully realize what she was asking - after all, you did make a whole quilt for her.
So - maybe next time - just say something like "That's a cute kit - I hope you enjoy making it up"