I am going to go with the comfort quilt and wait to see how she feels about the memory quilt. I am actually going to wait and make one in colors that she would like. I am making one for her step-dad that I am going to be taking with me if I can get it done in time. If not I plan on having my SIL mail it to her step-dad. I hope that I can get it done in time for him because he is having a really really hard time of it. He is the one that found her. They had been having trouble and they just got back together about a month ago. I am just glad that it wasn't any of my SIL's sibs (they are all younger and still live at home.) Thank you all for your input. It has helped a ton.