well..it is sad but also I don't think it looks as bad as you think...you can press it and if your still unhappy explain to her what happened..she will understand...anyway today the look in quilts is more used than anything....I no longer prewash fabrics...I love the shrunk look as a matter of fact the longarmer and I did it on purpose on a fannel quilt I made...we used wool batting and I came home and washed it in warm water..it looks wonderful and everyone loves it...they used it in a local quilt shop for months....so take a deep breath and remember..you made it in love....blessings