I am the same way! I got a Juki on a frame last year, and every time I load a quilt, I have to get the DVD out and watch and stop and do that part and then watch some more, stop, do it....etc!
Good luck, hope you can find something that helps you. Of course, the best thing might be to take a Beginning quilter class. That way you can ask questions as you go, and you have someone there that can guide your hands (so to speak). I know that helped me a lot.