Julie, I am a newbie to quilting so I can't help much there but what I can tell you is this. When taking care of a loved one with alz... you need to make sure that you also take care of yourself!!! Make sure you get out and have 'me' time at least like 15 mins EVERYDAY!!!! I hope you have help!
I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
I don't want to offend you. I know that you want to 'do right' by your mom. But a lot of times the best thing you can do for her is to make sure you take care of yourself!