To reply to Sewjoyce. No I did not treat my Mother-in-Law the same way. I did not want to spread the pain. I tried to teach our son and daughter to also not accept the hurt. I remember my little daughter crying when she gave her a Christmas gift she made in Sunday School and colored the Baby Jesus. Her Grandmother asked "Who's She?" Our daughter laughed and thought it was a joke. She explained to her Grandmother who became extremely nasty saying she would not have her grandchildren taught such lies. Needless to say she did not celebrate Christmas and we never celebrated with her either. My husband grew up with with it and his father who was religious and very kind helped him. Anyway we still gave her birthday gifts and Mothers Day gifts and tried to please her but I will admit one thing I did. When she rejected the gift and handed it back I had chosen something I liked to have for myself :)