I expect them to be used, but not abused. I know that they will be dragged around and then washed when dirty. I don't expect them to be put on the floor for the dog to lay on. If they get worn out, I know that they have been loved and like you, I will make another. If I am particularly attached to a beautiful quilt I may keep it awhile until I find someone "quilt worthy". I want the person to feel loved and hugged by my gift.