I definitely give it to be used. All but few of the quilts I made are for use. I do not like it to be abused though. I have a harder time with people who overly treasure my quilts. I made a twin for an adorable aunt and she has it hanging center on her living room wall like a piece of art. I had made it picturing her grand kids snugling in it or draped over a favorite chair for use. I am so glad she likes it but I was surprised I felt a little sad it was not used. So I am definitely more a please use my quilts person. Part of giving quilts is the hug I am sending along with it.