I want them used. When I first married my late DH, his very sweet Portuguese mother told me to use all the fancy stuff we got for presents EVERY DAY. She asked me a question that made it all make sense.
She asked me..."What am I saving it for? For DH's NEXT wife?"
So even when the kids were little we used every thing we had that was pretty, from dishes to quilts from older family, etc. And we all had lovely memories of that life. And the kids learned early to take care of things, but they were still used constantly.