I guess I am strange because I actually ask my mom for advice on how to control my kids. That's the problem now a days. No discipline! If the mom doesn't step in now and not let the 2 yrold have what ever he wants the 3 yro will take care of it by himself in a couple of years. It will come down to the older one saying to his parents 'you let him have everything, you love him more' or worse yet the 3 yrold regressing into doing the same actions to get what he wants. I mean why not! It works for his little bro!
These ppl that don't want help from ppl that have been there done that are just crazy!! Why make the same mistakes that have already been made! Good luck and like Sue said above your house your rules. If you don't like it there's the door. Don't let it hit ya where the good Lord split ya!!