I made my 1st grandchild a quilt for his mom's baby shower. It was on the cover of a book of baby quilts and I searched high & low for the same fabrics, cause I just loved it. Fast forward about 2 years - we were visiting at their home (we're from out of state (like 1100 miles away) and doing some of our laundry, and there on top of the dryer, wadded into a ball, is this precious baby quilt...wet. I felt sick at heart. I didn't know what to do, but I decided to let my d-i-l know how sad I was and offered to take back the quilt. Turns out their washer overflowed the drain sink and drenched everything on the floor. Baby quilt had needed to be washed and was w/the rest of the laundry. It got put on the top of the dryer for "special care" that just didn't happen. It happened that day. Now that precious grandson is 6 yrs old and has asked grammy to please make him a quilt for his bed "just like his baby quilt, only bigger". I've now tried to talk him into something more 6 yr oldish, but no go. He wants a quilt for his bed "just like his baby quilt, only bigger." If I hadn't spoken to my darling DIL, this day would never have happened. That said, once a quilt (or any gift) is given, you don't have the right to determine how it is used. Unless of course, it is sitting on top of the dryer, damp, etc. etc.