I have found that people who must always get the highest praise and be best, or first are really very needy.. They may seem very self confident, but if they are not #1 they are hurt.. and so will try anything to take that position. She may be one of those people who are always needing strokes.. Trouble is that it dosen't help them. The very next thing that comes along they are fighting for that top spot again.. You can't fill them up. I agree with the others, quit showing her your quilts.. It won't fix her, but it will keep you from feeling so deflated.