I can understand not wanting to be alone in a room with a man who you don't know, just dangerous for women, but when you said you would have your wife sit in, that is just unfair. I am sorry that you are having a problem. like others have said, ask questions here and you will get answers. and pics always help. I hope you find a local board member who can help in person. there is no substitute for getting one on one in person help. Good luck and please ask questions here. we will never ignore you just because you are a guy. it is actually nice to see hubbies and other guys who get interested in quilting. gives us a whole new perspective on quilting.