I am sorry you are having trouble. I hope you can find another quilt shop fairly close to you that is more friendly. There really is no excuse for it. If it were your first time to show up in the store, that might be one thing. But, shop owners usually make it a point to know their local customers and do everything to accomodate their needs. I can't imagine my LQS or any of the local guilds down here turning you down. In fact, we do have at least one male quilter that comes to our Saturday Sampler with his wife and he buys his fabric and she buys hers when we have sales.
I can't imagine this shop you go to will stay in business very long with that attitude.
Since you can't get help, maybe you need to just learn to be creative, learn new techniques and become famous!!!!