There has to be at least one quilt shop in your area who would love to have a new customer. Go into each shop and ask to speak to the owner, then explain your problem to that person and see if you can arrange to come to a class or get private lessons. Oh bring your wife when you go in and have her chime in to help assure the narrow minded that your not a stalker or something. Bring along a sample of your work and explain due to your injury you need to actually see what is being done. Wish you were closer as I would happily teach you what I know.
I've had gentlemen in my classes and am amazed at the different way that guys and gals see fabric.
We actually have a gentleman who is color blind and makes beautiful quilts. He comes in with a design, tells the shop owner the colors he wants in all the different areas and then she picks fabrics according to the colors he wants. He does amazing quilts and has had a one man show at the local gallery. Hang in there you will eventually find someone to help you.
Another idea might be to post a notice in a shop for a private tutor. Who knows someone may step up. When you meet for the first time have your wife along and have her make it clear that she supports your quilting. Give her an extra hug too for supporting your quest to learn more.