My suggestion, just like some other things, force yourself to do it until you get comfortable with it. It's soooo weird at first and you'll think it just can't ever feel right, but it will. Find a metal one that is snug, but isn't too tight and if needed, reshape it a bit with a hammer to flatten it to an oval shape to fit the shape of your finger. I've tried leather ones, but still feel the needle too much. Metal are best and last longer. Once you find one that fits, guard it like your best friend.