I think that we get upset when we work so hard and the person we give it to has no regard for our time or talent poured into the quilt. Being "used" and being "abused" are totally different things. Finding your quilt left out in the rain to rot or being used to lay on while changing the oil in the car after many hours of work hurts. If we choose the recipients of our quilts wisely, we will not be disappointed by the way they use them. I give mine to people I know love me and my passion for quilts and cherish the fact that they have one of their own.