I learned the hard way, and a long time ago,that i can not do for everyone.
"if it's not life altering, it is not worth the worry"
i used to be a type "A" personality, until my health took a dump..i gave all my kids ornaments to them a few years ago..for thier own families trees..i put up a little tree on top of a table. my grandson and i make ornaments and sun catchers to give to his other grandparents and aunts/uncles. (about 6 items total) it is so much fun!
one year when my husband and i were both laid off..we had 50 bucks total for Christmas for our three kids..and the truth be told, it was the best Christmas ever, no more pressure,no feeling bad over something we had no control over. no more buying gifts for other family members..i prayed for peace of mind and i got it.
when we both went back to work..the following Christmas,my girls went to be with thier birth father, my husband had to work, and our son went to be with his friend on a farm..i went to a restaurant and had a quiet dinner by myself.
All was right with the world!