So sorry for both of your losses...and so close together...I hope you do get the Christmas quilts done...but if for some reason you can't I am sure that giving IOU's instead would be totally understood...try not to put too much pressure on yourself at this time...you are grieving and need to take time for that and make sure you get lots of rest....just do what you can...and the rest can be done after the holidays.
Take care!