I am retired, and old enough to realize that the things that cause us the most stress usually aren't that important. I have told my children to adopt a family instead of giving us a present. I try to give each of my 3 children a small gift, money to the older GK, and presents for the youngest 3, 2 of which still believe.
Unfortunately tragedy doesn't care if it is a holiday, it happens anyway. They are bad at any time but it does seem like around the holidays, when you are supposed to be in a jolly mood, it magnifies it. That is when we miss family the most. I know they are watching but I miss the hugs.
My idea of the perfect Christmas is to give to the ones that have nothing, visit with my children and grandchildren, dinner at someone elses house, go to mass, and relax.