Qbee, I fully understand your sorrow. 10 years ago I lost my mother and sister within five weeks. And, strangely, my mom passed on Dec. 9th which happened to be the same day my father passed 54 years earlier.
I would not stress out over the quilts. Your family, above all else, understand the situation. You can always have Christmas later when everyone is feeling better. Suggestions above are good. Take your time, move as the spirit leads you. God Bless you!